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CASE ONE Lan-li’s story: finding love in the looking glass

Smith, Maggie Yaxley Karnac Books PDF

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CHAPTER TITLE

CASE ONE

Lan-li’s story: finding love in the looking glass

Anorexia ecently, at a barbecue, I overheard a father saying to his petite

five-year-old daughter, “don’t put tomato sauce on that, you’ll get fat.” A shadow of hurt was cast over her previously excited face. She put the sauce bottle down on a nearby table and sat down.

She chewed half-heartedly at her burger, kicking the legs of her plastic chair. I noticed that she disappeared off without finishing what was on her plate.

I never cease to be shocked by sitting across from attractive, intelligent young women or young men, listening to them tell me how stupid, ugly, and fat they are. It took me years as a counsellor to realise that such a client truly was not able to take in the truth of what was actually reflected back to them in the mirror. This distortion is just one example of the many ways we can perceive ourselves as “less than”.

There are commonly two types of anorexia and although it is more frequently found in women it is something that young men can develop as well. Symptoms can begin from age ten or even earlier:

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5. Psychotherapy exposed

Smith, David L. Karnac Books ePub

Most true it is, that I have lookt on truth
Asconce and strangely…
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Shakespeare

Robert Joseph Langs, the founder of the communicative aproach to psychoanalysis, was born on 30 June 1928 in New York City. The son of a doctor, Langs studied medicine at the Chicago Medical School, obtaining his MD in 1953, and went on to study psychiatry at the Albert Einstein College of Medicine, starting a career in psychiatric research in 1958. In 1959 Langs began training as a psychoanalyst at the Downstate Psychoanalytic Institute in Brooklyn: a conservative, classically orientated institute from which he obtained a psychoanalytic qualification in 1969. Langs’s publications between 1959 and 1968 were mainly empirical studies of early memories, dreams, and the psychological effects of LSD (Langs 1959; Langs et al. 1960; Langs and Linton 1962a, b; Langs and Linton 1964; Langs et al. 1964; Langs 1965a, b; Langs et al. 1965; Langs 1966; Langs 1967a, b; Langs and Linton Barr 1968; Langs 1969).

After qualifying as a psychoanalyst, Langs began to turn his scientific sensibilities to the problems of analytic theory and technique. Although by no means a rigid or dogmatic Freudian, Langs took for granted the essential correctness of many basic Freudian tenets.

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29. K'an / The Abysmal (Water) (The Deep, The Depths)

Jones, Peggy Karnac Books ePub

above Kan / The Abysmal, Water

below Kan / The Abysmal, Water

above Kên / Keeping Still, Mountain

below Chên / The Arousing, Thunder

K'an is associated with danger because it represents moving water, deep water, and ground water, which is water so deep that it has passed out of sight. The danger is not so much something to be overcome as it is a condition or circumstance to be recognized. The hexagram itself pictures an abyss or ravine, with a strong middle line lying between two yielding, or ‘dark’, lines representing the high banks or cliffs of a river or gorge. This is not a situation from which we can easily remove ourselves: we are in the water and we must get on with it, not fight it or deny it. That would only create danger of a different order.

The way to behave in these circumstances is to become at one with the element in which we find ourselves. Water moves; it flows and plunges and tumbles, never being held back for long. Responding to the pull of the moon, drawn to the sea, not resisting but flowing as its nature dictates that it must, the motion of water represents that which in the human sphere might be identified as a sort of fundamental trust, a willingness to lose oneself in the current of life, not to hold back or keep anything in reserve, ‘just in case’. This is not a counsel for mindlessly abandoning ourselves to whatever current has the strongest pull; on the contrary, with wholehearted commitment to see the situation through, however hard it might be on us emotionally, we are committing ourselves to the work of the Creative in this moment. As the high cliffs confine the waters of K'an in the imagery of this hexagram, forcing them to work through that channel and no other, so these times demand that we work with where we are, using the capacity we all possess to comprehend a situation on more than an intellectual level, to ‘feel’ our way into the very heart of it - as an explorer and as a lover.

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Chapter Four - Aggression

Rodriguez De La Sierra, Luis; Schachter, Joan Karnac Books ePub

CHAPTER FOUR

Aggression

Aggression is part of human development from the beginning of life and as such we can talk about it as an instinct. Aggressive tendencies of all sorts constitute a considerable proportion of human behaviours, of human drives. These tendencies are necessary for us to go forward in life, to achieve, to survive. In this sense we can talk of the energy that constitutes normal and constructive aggression. Aggressiveness may also be a reaction to frustration and be aimed at overcoming such frustrations. Defensive aggression is a normal response to another form of aggression, namely violence or external attack, whilst pathological aggression is aimed at destroying others or oneself and is the main essence of unjustified violence. In adolescence aggression acquires a particular character and function which, by its urgent presence, causes confusion and concern among young people or to the adults around them. At this point of adolescence the character of aggression changes, as now the young person has a body that allows him to carry out damaging and destructive acts of aggression which can no longer be easily controlled by adults.

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HOW TO DO IT

Furey, Paul Karnac Books PDF

EXPERIMENT: GET FEEDBACK

HOW TO DO IT

“I’m reading a book about feedback and want to get

Find out where you are with feedback right now: where you have gaps and what you need to change to get better at it.

your opinion on something. Do you remember that time

To do this approach 2-3 people – ideally at least one of whom you might have in the past offended with feedback and perhaps another who didn’t seem to take you seriously. Ask them how they felt when you gave them feedback and what you did that made them react as they did.

I gave you feedback and you weren’t too keen?

or said that…

…made my feedback go wrong for you?” or

…made my feedback not work?”

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